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To all the victims and survivors…

To All The Survivors
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I hope you all had a lovely time during Christmas. Before 2017 ends there is one topic that has not left my mind for a long time. I’ve thought about it a long time if I should say something or just be quite. But I wanted to show my support so this goes out to all the survivors of sexual assault.

I have not experienced sexual assault in any way so I won’t even begin to pretend that I can imagine what you went or are still going through, because honestly… I CAN’T.

I just wanted to tell you that I am SO SORRY for what happened to you, because that it is so NOT OKAY! No one, no woman or man deserves to experience the kind of pain you had to. I really hope you know that is absolutely NOT YOUR FAULT!

If I would stand before you I would give you a big hug and tell you how proud I am that you are standing up for yourself and no matter what, I will support and stand beside you. I would also tell you that I hope you found or will find a way to heal, because you have every right to find happiness again and enjoy all the good that life has to offer.

I wish I could ensure you that you will get the justice you deserve and maybe also need, but sadly that is often not the case. I also wish I personally could do more than just watch helplessly from the sidelines, while you are discouraged to speak up and fight for people to believe you.

Well I BELIEVE YOU and this kind of predatory, abusive behavior is unacceptable. PERIOD. Not being able to feel safe at your workplace, your university or even in your personal life is not an option and yet it is the reality you have to face!

Even though I am not a victim/survivor I am sick and tired of the constant cruelty and victim shaming that happens to you. I am frustrated that the justice system and other people in power refuse to do something about it.

I am hopeful that if we continue to demand change it will eventually happen. It really needs to happen…

To everyone who is keeping silent, looking away or protecting a perpetrator I urge you to take a long look in the mirror and ask yourself: Would you want this to happen to your friends, your sisters, your mother or your children?

No? Well then you should think about how you can help things to change, because doing nothing is not an option anymore….

To all you brave souls out there I am really in awe of your strength and I want you to know you are not alone. So keep fighting and don’t give up!

I am sending you all the love I have and maybe someday I can finally give you that hug in person.

Love, Carolin
xoxo

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    8 COMMENTS

  • Becca December 27, 2017 Reply

    It feels like the tides are starting to turn. Maybe this time we will see some change. Keep speaking up, words are power!

    • Carolin December 27, 2017 Reply

      I definitely will and hope others will too 🙂

  • Robin December 27, 2017 Reply

    It’s definitely been an interesting year in how we talk and think about this topic. As women, even if we haven’t had experiences that meet the exact definition of “sexual assault,” I think a lot of us have had experiences that have left us feeling uncomfortable, anxious, and unsure of ourselves. I’m hoping that the reckoning we’re having as a society right now helps us to feel more empowered to draw the line in uncomfortable situations and help future women to do the same.

    • Carolin December 27, 2017 Reply

      I’m hopeful too, that if we continue to demand change, it will eventually happen.

  • Misty Anderson December 27, 2017 Reply

    I haven’t been affected by sexual assualt but I know many who have. It leaves a lasting, unseen, mark upon their lives. Thank you for such a beautiful post.

    • Carolin December 27, 2017 Reply

      I am so sorry to hear that! I hope they’ll be able to work through it and find their happiness again.

  • Taylor || Generation Tay December 29, 2017 Reply

    Carolin, this is such an important post. I also have not personally been sexually assaulted, but sexual harassment is something I am no stranger to. Confiding in friends, loved ones, and other allies (like yourself) is a huge reason why victims are able to be so brave and heal. We need more of this. Uplifting and encouraging others, even if they are strangers. Reminding them that, no matter what, they are heard and believed is absolutely vital. Thank you for playing a part in that.

    xo, Taylor

    • Carolin December 29, 2017 Reply

      Thank you so much for that comment means a lot to me 🙂 I will definitely try to continue supporting and encouraging others.

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