After yesterday’s amazing guest post about body shaming I realized how few of us are actually able to practice self-love . It’s not always other people that shame and criticize us, but it’s too often us who criticize ourselves. This is some destructive behavior that will sooner or later have a negative impact on our life, our health, our mind and our self-esteem.
Loving yourself is not an easy task. I can tell you I have huge difficulties with that topic. I’m always super fast in criticizing myself and finding something about me that I don’t like.
So how can we learn to love ourselves? What can we do to show ourself more love, more appreciation and just more acceptance of who we are? These women are trying to answer the question:
It’s so true. I think we are our worst enemies and the funny thing is that we wouldn’t tolerate that kind of treatment from our friends for a second. So before we expect our friends to treat us with love and respect we should start with that first. And remember it is absolutely okay that not everyone likes you.
YES! Write it all down. All the sh*tty and all the nice things. It makes a difference when you actually have something on paper. This could be a form of healing journaling and I’m pretty sure some thoughts will seem almost ridiculous once they are not in your head anymore.
One thing is for sure. You are the only person that will be stuck for life with yourself so we all better learn now how we can be our biggest fan. I mean thinking like being a mother for ourselves could be perfect, since our mum is usually one of our biggest fans. I’m sure it sounds a little weird at first, but it basically means to take care and nurture us in the best possible way.
Just let go – it sounds so easy and yet it is so f***ing hard. It is definitely something I need to practice. Like I’ve sad before I am mastering the degree in self criticizing. A part of loving myself is to shut up that inner critic of mine and be gentle and forgiving about my flaws and mistakes.
If there is one thing to take away from this post is, that it is TIME TO PRACTICE SELF-LOVE! You deserve to be loved – especially by you- and you need to stop wasting your time with hating yourself.